I think if I’m reacting to something someone says, i.e. a weird tone or something slightly snarky, sometimes it helps me to stop and think about what they’re thinking and feeling and why. There’s someone I met recently and she was being kind of weird toward me and she said a few snarky things and I started to worry that she didn’t like me and I have a pathological need for people to like me and I was feeling very insecure. But then I had a long conversation with her at a party and I started to realize that maybe she thought I didn’t like her. I realized we were just two insecure goobers who were worrying too much about whether people like us.
The thing about treating yourself the way you'd treat your best friend, though, is that of course you wouldn't say something mean to a friend. But...there might be something..."less than good" about them that's true that you would never say out loud, and not saying it doesn't make it any less true. And trying not to say a mean thing to yourself doesn't make it untrue, either.
I think that’s a great point, and I think being honest with yourself (and when necessary, with your close friends) is vital. That said, for me, my struggle tends to be that i am far too unkind to myself.
I think if I’m reacting to something someone says, i.e. a weird tone or something slightly snarky, sometimes it helps me to stop and think about what they’re thinking and feeling and why. There’s someone I met recently and she was being kind of weird toward me and she said a few snarky things and I started to worry that she didn’t like me and I have a pathological need for people to like me and I was feeling very insecure. But then I had a long conversation with her at a party and I started to realize that maybe she thought I didn’t like her. I realized we were just two insecure goobers who were worrying too much about whether people like us.
I think I need the necklace to reward myself for making it through this school year. 😂 Always love hearing your perspective ❤️
You deserve all the necklaces.
The thing about treating yourself the way you'd treat your best friend, though, is that of course you wouldn't say something mean to a friend. But...there might be something..."less than good" about them that's true that you would never say out loud, and not saying it doesn't make it any less true. And trying not to say a mean thing to yourself doesn't make it untrue, either.
I think that’s a great point, and I think being honest with yourself (and when necessary, with your close friends) is vital. That said, for me, my struggle tends to be that i am far too unkind to myself.